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Life changes

tlwise

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22 ماي 2019
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Sure every personality has its features that are defining her during the whole life. But sometimes due to some inner and unconscious causes or social compulsions, we feel changing in mood and behavior

for instance last months and at least last few weeks, I became a little bit nervous and I reacted in anger for most stimulations (I'm trying to avoid that:)) this led to harmful results with some of my dearest relationships, that I'm trying to fix

What have you experienced these days that have marked you, and your are trying to avoid in order not let them be parts of your personality
 

Funny you ask. I know what you are going through, since I've been there too. In most times it is triggered when I'm under a great deal of pressure but it could also manifest itself at any given time, just like that without warning my spirit goes down to meet its lowest point and I get this feeling like I'm not my usual self. definitely something has been shifted inside me and then reflected outwardly in my behavior. Those surrounding me can notice the change in my attitude too, and start asking me questions such as: " What could possibly bothering you?" Why you haven't seemed yourself lately?" knowing that there is absolutely something wrong with me


The problem is that I really can't open up to them because I, myself, don't know what came over me.
Sometimes when it gets out of control I might intentionally say something harsh that ,in my normal state of being, I would never want to upset them
Afterwards, once this overwhelming feeling of anxiety goes away I feel ashamed of how I treated them then. So, in order to clean up my mess, I reach out to them in attempt to make up for the harm I've done, hoping they could forgive me


At some point during these episodes I thought the best option is to set a perimeter around me like an imaginary boundary, by giving them some hints to remain away from me, believing that I am protecting them from my worst self

I thought by doing that, by pushing them away, I'm doing right by them, for their own good. At the same time, hoping that a complete withdrawal from social engagement can relieve my inner self, thus to help me to identify what is that's making my spirit in such vulnerable condition. and eversince I went cut off from the rest of the world my spirit just kept going backwards and eventually it drove everyone away, to find myself in a prison of my own creation


.Now I understand more than ever that isolating oneself from the world is not going to make this state of mind go away
I'm not pretending to be a specialist but I suspect it has something to do with low self esteem

Anyway it took me few years to get a handle on it. I found out that keeping myself distracted by doing various activities can lift my spirit
.As for me sports did the job, it helped me regaining my cheerful spirit again
.Perhaps a change of scenery can help you clear your mind


.If you can't fight your way out of this state of mind, then you should make peace with your worst self. Just embrace it.



 
التعديل الأخير:
.The nature of human beings is mostly based on learning and changing, humans evolve intellectually and mentally on all levels
.What you may have thought was false yesterday might turn today into the thing you believe in the most and you defend it remorselessly
The cognitive-communication abilities you used to interact with every single person those who are relatives or even the ones you never met, those
.abilities are getting refined each day and the method in which you utter words and express feelings is subject to change in every possible way
.There are many reasons that are in relation and cause directly and indirectly these changes in your personality and your overall knowledge
 
Funny you ask. I know what you are going through, since I've been there too. In most times it is triggered when I'm under a great deal of pressure but it could also manifest itself at any given time, just like that without warning my spirit goes down to meet its lowest point and I get this feeling like I'm not my usual self. definitely something has been shifted inside me and then reflected outwardly in my behavior. Those surrounding me can notice the change in my attitude too, and start asking me questions such as: " What could possibly bothering you?" Why you haven't seemed yourself lately?" knowing that there is absolutely something wrong with me


The problem is that I really can't open up to them because I, myself, don't know what came over me.
Sometimes when it gets out of control I might intentionally say something harsh that ,in my normal state of being, I would never want to upset them
Afterwards, once this overwhelming feeling of anxiety goes away I feel ashamed of how I treated them then. So, in order to clean up my mess, I reach out to them in attempt to make up for the harm I've done, hoping they could forgive me


At some point during these episodes I thought the best option is to set a perimeter around me like an imaginary boundary, by giving them some hints to remain away from me, believing that I am protecting them from my worst self

I thought by doing that, by pushing them away, I'm doing right by them, for their own good. At the same time, hoping that a complete withdrawal from social engagement can relieve my inner self, thus to help me to identify what is that's making my spirit in such vulnerable condition. and eversince I went cut off from the rest of the world my spirit just kept going backwards and eventually it drove everyone away, to find myself in a prison of my own creation


.Now I understand more than ever that isolating oneself from the world is not going to make this state of mind go away
I'm not pretending to be a specialist but I suspect it has something to do with low self esteem

Anyway it took me few years to get a handle on it. I found out that keeping myself distracted by doing various activities can lift my spirit
.As for me sports did the job, it helped me regaining my cheerful spirit again
.Perhaps a change of scenery can help you clear your mind


.If you can't fight your way out of this state of mind, then you should make peace with your worst self. Just embrace it.

I totally relate to every word you wrote. Literally.

you made my day. Thank you.
 
Usually, I'm short-tempered one but I have not harmed anyone. Nowadays, I'm working hard and pressed with a huge workload.. So, even little things make me more aggressive and scold others for no reason.I'm really worried about my condition
 
Really I couldn't even believe what level social relationships reached of complications , I couldn't really figure out sources , maybe social media is daily diffusing hatred and rancor and stressful news of death and misconduct, or we as society blindly follow feelings of rage and arrogance and doubt on all
Real friend or colleague or cousin …should forgive whom not intentionally hurted him, hatred starts from small acts and ideas of anger and little revenge to overwhelm the entire relations…
In purpose and in order to avoid others misunderstand and wrong apparent judgment, I generally live in a little isolation
 
فَمَنْ يُرِدِ اللَّهُ أَنْ يَهْدِيَهُ يَشْرَحْ صَدْرَهُ لِلْإِسْلَامِ ۖ وَمَنْ يُرِدْ أَنْ يُضِلَّهُ يَجْعَلْ صَدْرَهُ ضَيِّقًا حَرَجًا كَأَنَّمَا يَصَّعَّدُ فِي السَّمَاءِ-الأنعام 125

Dear friends
It is a human nature that we feel pressured and sometimes living for non-sense. After all we are working for what: to have job, get married, have money and kids, own your car and ....ok
Is it a real achievement ? and does it make you different? no
What we need is to have a mission and a clear path. to be a good Muslim is not only to pray and do your fasting and pilgrimage! rather it is to be a positive person
Personally , I believe that Quran is a cure and remedy to all psychological pains
{وَنُنَزِّلُ مِنَ القُرْآَنِ مَا هُوَ شِفَاءٌ وَرَحْمَةٌ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَلَا يَزِيدُ الظَّالِمِينَ إِلَّا خَسَارًا} [الإسراء:82]

Note: I am not giving a judgment or overlooking the said opinions - As if I am telling to others you are not true believers! totally the opposite, I am just telling my little experience !- still I am in the bottom line and tracing my baby steps
 
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